An intimate questionnaire for couples
Discover what you're both open to.
duetiva asks you both the questions that are hard to say out loud — from how your sex life feels today to the fantasies you've never brought up. You each answer alone, in your own time. Nothing is revealed until you've both answered.
What's inside
Eight chapters, over two hundred questions — starting with a snapshot of today, reaching further out from there. Skip any question, stop any time.
- Current sex life
- Night out
- At a distance
- Extra man
- Extra woman
- Another couple
- Soft bondage & role play
- Toys
Honest answers need protecting
The whole design exists to make the truthful answer the easy one.
A yes is not a promise
Every fantasy is scored twice — how arousing it is as a fantasy, and whether you'd actually want to do it. Desire and consent stay separate, so you can be honest about both.
Being blindfolded
Scoring a fantasy high commits you to nothing — the two scales exist so you can say both things at once.
No peeking, no anchoring
Your partner answers the same questions from their side, invited with a single link. Neither of you sees the other's answer until you've given your own.
Sauna or jacuzzi together with another couple
Your partner's answer
Willingness: Yes, no problem
Your answer
Not answered yet
Your partner already answered this one. Theirs unseals the moment you give yours — so nobody shapes their answer around the other's.
1 · Answer aloneWork through the deck privately, at your own pace.
2 · Send one linkYour partner answers the same questions, without seeing yours.
3 · Compare togetherAnswers unseal question by question, once you've both given yours.
Private by design
What you share here is meant for one person. The product is built around that.
No real names. A username signs you up. Adding an email is optional.
One reader. Your answers are shown to exactly one person: the partner you invite.
Leave nothing behind. Deleting your account permanently erases every answer you've given.
Common questions
- What kind of questions does duetiva ask?
- Over two hundred questions across eight chapters, from how your sex life feels today to flirty dares for a night out, playing at a distance, scenarios with an extra man or woman or another couple, soft bondage and role play, and toys. Every chapter opens gently, and you can skip any question.
- Is duetiva free?
- Yes. Creating an account and taking the questionnaire with your partner is free.
- Can my partner see my answers?
- Not until they have answered the same question themselves. Each answer stays sealed until both of you have given yours, so neither of you can peek or shape an answer around the other’s.
- Do we need to use our real names?
- No. A username is all you need to sign up — adding an email is optional, and used only for account recovery and important service notices. You can permanently delete your account and every answer at any time.
- How does my partner join?
- You send them one invite link. They create their own account and answer the same questions from their side — without ever seeing your answers first.
- Is duetiva like a yes/no/maybe list?
- It is the same idea, grown up. Instead of a printable checklist you compare by hand, duetiva scores every fantasy on two separate scales — how arousing it is as a fantasy, and whether you would actually want to do it — and reveals answers question by question only once you have both answered.
The conversation starts without a word.
Start the questionnaireThen send one link to your partner.